I'm a virgin and recently got pretty intimate with my girlfriend over the weekend. We both decided to hold off on actual sex, so we spent hours fooling around without crossing that line. My penis would go hard for a while and then soften when we stopped, and this cycle happened a few times on Sunday. But when we finally thought about having sex later that day, my penis just wouldn't get hard. I'm wondering if it was because my penis was fatigued from being erect so often beforehand. Is it normal, or could there be another reason like maybe performance anxiety? Im confused because I was able to get erections earlier, so Im not sure whats going on. Any thoughts?

Dr Kareemulla Shaik

General Practitioner

• MBBS
• 0+ Yrs

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When the penis is repeatedly becoming erect and then returning to a flaccid state without ejaculation, it can lead to temporary difficulty in achieving or maintaining an erection. This is because the penis may become fatigued from the repeated engorgement and relaxation of the blood vessels. In such cases, it is important to allow the penis an adequate amount of time to rest and recover before attempting sexual activity again. Additionally, ensuring that you are well-hydrated, well-rested, and not under excessive stress can also help improve erectile function. If this issue persists or if you have concerns about your sexual health, it may be beneficial to consult with a healthcare provider for further evaluation and guidance.

Answered 04/07/2025